We share why the traditional bachelorette party is an I DON’T in our series: I Do/ I Don’t, where we split the pros and cons between the hottest wedding trends.
The traditional bachelorette party, as depicted by comedies like Bridesmaids and Bachelorette Party is an evening filled with debauchery to help the bride say au revoir to single life. But we’ve expressed before that not all bachelorette party ideas are created equal.
Today, we’re saying I don’t to traditional bachelorette parties. We get the female bonding, the last hurrah, and the crazy night out ideas. We’re all for good times and a last night as a “single” lady, but we think it’s time to say goodbye to the traditional bachelorette party.
Why, after a year of meticulously getting yourself in tip top shape, choosing the perfect dresses for engagement parties, showers, your wedding dress (!) and yes, the perfect bachelorette party dress, why would you want to adorn yourself with plastic phalluses? Even if your bridal party has the best of intentions, someone invited to the bachelorette party is going to break out some “fun” male genitalia inspired accessories.
Of course, your comfort (or lack thereof) with bachelorette party games all affect how naughty the night will get. But if you’d prefer a fun filled evening that you can still invite your future sister-in-law to, a traditional bachelorette party may not be the way to go.
Why not look at alternative bachelorette party ideas? We’ve talked before about fun burlesque classes, a spa day, an art class (with wine and live figure models). But you can easily have a wonderful bachelorette party with the girls by having a nice dinner out. Or you can take the party inside and have one last epic girls night slumber party. Opportunities for girls only fun, staying up til 3 am doing mani pedis and gossiping, and watching your favorite chick flicks won’t come as easily after you say I Do – why not make the evening truly memorable (rather than a tequila fueled blur)?
We’ll leave you with this last tidbit (from a fantastic piece on Jezebel about how to throw a bachelorette party that doesn’t suck):
“The best bachelorette parties are the ones where the focus is on the bride having some time to relax, to not have to worry about wedding planning or that work thing or the laundry or whether or not her husband called his mom for her birthday; where the bride gets to spend some awesome time with her girls; and where there bride’s childhood and college friends get to meet and love her new grown-up friends.”