Once you decide to pop the question, you want to create the perfect proposal. Even if you know they are going to say yes, you don’t want anything to go wrong and mar the romantic moment you put together. Never fear; your proposal will be magical simply because it is your moment and a little quirk or two will just make it more memorable. Still, there are a few blunders you never want to make while proposing marriage.
Not having a ring
A proposal is about love, commitment and starting a lifelong adventure together. But, let’s be honest, it’s also very much about the ring. Most girls spent years dreaming of their proposal and the fairy tale usually includes having a ring slipped on to her finger. But, proposing without a ring is an easy trap to fall into, especially since many couple are choosing to forgo the tradition of having him surprise her with a ring he selected. If she has preselected her ring, hold on to it until the right moment and present it to her with the question. Or, if the plan is for her to choose a ring after saying yes, propose with a placeholder, such as a little girl’s toy ring. It may seem silly, but it’s a detail she will laugh over and cherish.
Spilling the beans
If you want to surprise her with a magical moment, you’ll need to keep the plan to yourself. While you might need a handful of accomplices to pull the proposal off, limit it to one or two of your own friends. Getting her friends in on the act might mean inadvertently tipping her off. Plus, your bride-to-be will probably want to share the news with her friends and family herself. If you blabber before she accepts she may be disappointed that she didn’t get that moment.
Not having a plan
All you need to do is get on one knee and ask, right? Wrong. Even if you are skipping an elaborate proposal and opting for something simple, you need a plan. No one wants to propose at a favorite restaurant only to have the server come by to refill your water glasses and get your appetizer order, or to have to shout over the live band. If you are proposing in public, let the staff know in advance so they can give you a private moment. Think through the setting and time and make sure you control as much of the situation as possible.
Not knowing her preferences
It goes without saying that you should be certain of the answer before asking the question. But, there are a few more things you’ll need to know about your potential fiancé before launching into your proposal. Is she a traditionalist that will want you to talk to her father before asking, or is she more independently minded and wants you to ask only her? Will she want a big public scene or a quiet moment with just the two of you? Marriage proposals aren’t one-size-fits-all and what will make one lady swoon will horrify another. The key to the perfect proposal is to customize it to her tastes.